TransTogether: After Dark, or just ‘TTAD’ for short, is a trans positive pub social ran by members of the community aiming to provide a safe space for a night out and build local community.

We are all about accepting everyone and every part of everyone. When we say trans, we mean anyone under the trans umbrella; non binary, genderfluid, agender, demigender etc etc etc. We also welcome anyone who is questioning their gender and still figuring themselves out with open arms.

We do also welcome allies into this space if people want to bring a friend, partner, carer or anything along those lines; we want you to be able to show up as yourself as safely as possible. All we ask is that allies are respectful that this is a trans+ led space and we want to make sure it remains safe for EVERYONE.

In order to make sure everyone is safe and happy at our group we request everyone follow these guidelines:

  1. We’re A Safe Space - We will not tolerate queerphobia, racism, ableism, ageism, sexism, or any other kind of discrimination. This is a safe space where all people are welcomed.
  2. We Respect Privacy - If someone doesn’t want to share something personal with you then please respect that and don’t keep asking them for it. Don’t share personal information of others outside of the group - if you need to talk about it please anonymize your stories.
  3. We Don’t Judge - Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, if someone asks you to back off from a topic with them then please back off. Please don’t make judgements about other people’s transition, there is no one ‘right way’ to be trans.
  4. We Decide Our Own Identities - We will have sticker labels available for you to write your name(s) & pronouns on at our social if you wish - you do not have to use them. This is a safe space for you to try out new names and pronouns if you want to. You can even change them during the group if you want. Please don’t assume people’s pronouns, if you don’t know - ask. Please be aware that other people’s names and pronouns may not match their presentation. If you accidentally misgender or deadname someone then please apologize, correct yourself and move on. Deliberate misgendering or deadnaming may result in your removal from the group. You may also use these labels to highlight any other kinds of identity, or cite anything you feel others should know, whether it relates to disabilities, energy levels etc etc.
  5. We Get Consent - if you’re discussing a sensitive topic then please use trigger warnings and get the consent of people around you to discuss it. Remember you can always set a boundary and say no. If someone asserts a boundary please be respectful of them and don’t push it.
  6. We Use Social Media Responsibly - Please be careful what you post on social media - remember that not everyone is out online. Please don’t take photos of the group without the consent of everyone. We have a discord server, please speak to a team member for an invite - remember that the same guidelines that apply to the group apply to that server.
  7. We’re Kind - we do not tolerate bullying or harassment of any kind in our group. Please be compassionate, kind and friendly, please think about others as well as yourself.
  8. We’re Inclusive - We welcome new people into our group, if you see someone you haven’t met before then please make them feel welcomed. Perhaps you could try to introduce yourself to them?
  9. We’re For Making Friends - While you’re welcome to date other members of the group, we’re a social group first and foremost. Please don’t come to the group with the sole intention of finding someone to date, repeated unwanted advances will be treated as harassment.
  10. We’re Always Looking To Be Better- we will update and change this document as needs arise. If you think something should be added to this document then please get in touch with us, either through speaking to a team member verbally, through discord or emailing contact@ttad.love

We hope we never have to use this bit of the guidelines, but failure to follow them may result in a warning, a temporary ban from the group/discord or even a permanent ban from the group/discord.